In some families, the invalidation becomes extreme, leading to physical abuse and even murder.
However, invalidation can also be accomplished by verbal manipulations that invalidate in ways both subtle and confusing.” This post will discuss two aspects of invalidation that Dr. The first involves the relationship between the concept of invalidation and a similar concept from family systems pioneer Paul Watzlawick that he called . When I first read Linehan, I thought of a similar concept that I had read about in a classic book in family systems theory by Watzlawick, Beavin, and Jackson first published way back in 1967 called .
One patient, one of the worst self-cutters I have ever treated, used to have phone conversations with her mother nearly every day that lasted for hours and hours.
Patients brought me these tapes primarily because they were tired of other therapists continually insisting that their memories and descriptions of interactions with their families were all distorted.Family systems pioneer Murray Bowen framed this as a conflict between the forces of individuality and the forces of togetherness.Those with such a conflict suppress parts of themselves that do not seem to conform to what they believe other important family members expect of them, but the suppression is never complete.In this case, if you seem to have a need to invalidate your kids, they will say a bunch of stupid stuff just so you can keep doing it.In the case of the patient I just described, for instance, she would keep telling her mother, “I’m fine.
Such a person will disqualify what they are trying to get across just in case it is unacceptable to others.