Dating a black muslim man
At the time, I hated to hear this advice because I was that guy—the Muslim in a relationship with a non-Muslim girl that few of my friends knew about.
I rationalized this by telling myself we come from different cultural and religious backgrounds that I was not doing this to hurt her.
It is possible that this man does have very strong feelings for you, but even if he feels like he is in love with you, he is not willing to treat you lovingly by your standards. I know you asked for a Muslim’s take on this issue, and I mention religion very little because what you need to understand is that this has nothing to do with religion.
He’s got priorities that outrank you, and continuing this relationship will be a constant struggle between his family, his culture, and/or his religious views and you. This is a universal truth, or at least universal enough to respect it as a rule, acknowledging that there are occasional exceptions.
He may say that he is still figuring things out and trying to sort out his life. And discuss the challenges that lie ahead of you: the similarities, the differences, the shared life goals, the different life goals.
Perhaps also reach out to couples who have gone through these discussions before, like a non-Muslim/Muslim couple, and ask what they did to overcome these differences.
But life is unfair and often, but not always, life comes down disproportionately hard on the women in these relationships.
And it is always a lot of work, sometimes even more work, but I do believe that we are all the better for people like you who are willing to bridge the divide.
Here’s the truth, a man on the path to commitment doesn’t hide his beloved from his friends and family.Not many other sites can offer you a membership database of over 4.5 million members with the promise of introducing you to single Muslim men and women across the world.Muslima is part of the well-established Cupid Media network that operates over 30 reputable niche sites.From the beginning it has been clear that there are obstacles to our being together and we kept it very casual and light, but in the past few months we have become much, much closer and he expressed his love for me, and now I have allowed myself to love him very dearly also.However, what just happened a couple hours ago brought our true situation very present to me.
But your case is different: you have dated this person for 9 month, you are 41, and you have a desire for a serious relationship that may involve having children.