Dating a single dad help
She might try to turn his kids against him, or attempt take his kid(s) from him; all as a way to punish him for her displeasure, or out of jealousy.
He worries that a new, overly zealous, girlfriend may threaten the mom’s role, and suddenly his kids become ‘too busy’ to see dad.
Or the mom may turn unsupportive, critical, or demeaning about daddy and his ‘new friend’ and their relationship.
She could become less flexible to unforseen changes in the visitation schedule or choose not to help in the logistics of co-parenting.
But I can’t help but wonder what could be holding him back”.
Let me sidebar for a moment to emphasize an earlier point made about the complications of single parenting and how a single dad must balance the expectations of his ex, his kids, and his girlfriend.
And though they are justified to believe that meeting his kids is a sign of his affection and commitment, there are many times when that very thing, meeting his children, is the very worst idea.
I was reminded of this in a recent email from a woman who, like so many others, is dating a single dad who’s acting wishy-washy about introducing her to his kids.
If women actually understood the emotional hand-wringing fathers endure just getting to the point of even telling the ex and kids, these women might have a greater appreciation and deeper sympathy for what he’s going through.For single dads in such a situation, how to blend the kids and the new girlfriend becomes a matter of risk versus reward.Am I willing to place that very high bet on bringing my girlfriend and my kids together when I likely know where the cards will fall?It seems for many of these women, meeting his kids is a really big deal. It’s a sign, a sign of interest, a sign of faithfulness, perhaps a sign of his love.And for single dads who are doing the job of fatherhood right, it should be a sign.