When it comes to modern digital relationships, the rhythm of the exchange tells us as much as its literal content, and it doesn’t take any specialized skill to read between the lines.If you’re initiating all the texts in the relationship, the recipient just isn’t that into you; if you’re not getting any texts back, the recipient isn’t into you at all.fter three months of dating, 23-year-old Michael was optimistic about his relationship with Linda*. Michael and Linda mutually agreed that they wanted to move forward in the relationship.They were together often, and he'd even met her parents. He dropped her off at home, kissed her goodnight ... After his attempts to reach her went unanswered, Michael put on his cute-guy hat and delivered Linda's favorite cupcakes to her office -- only to find out his name had been removed from the guest list at the gate. The term "ghosting" (sometimes known as the "slow fade") refers to the anecdotally pervasive act where one dater ends a relationship by simply disappearing.I don't feel the normal empathy I would for someone I met organically," she said.Logan Levkoff, sexologist and expert on "Married At First Sight," explained that online dating and apps take the humanity out of the process a bit, which could make users prone to being ghosted. "The quantity [of how many people experience ghosting] is more because it's so easy to do and it requires very little human engagement in order to do it." In fact, in a poll conducted by You Gov and The Huffington Post, respondents ages 18-29 were more likely to admit they've experienced ghosting on either end than any other age group.
('Tis the season, go with me here.) Trick-or-treaters go from house to house, tasting all different types of "candy" (aka men or women) until they're completely exhausted. In a 2012 study, researchers identified seven types of breakup strategies.
Chelsea admits that's the case for her and a bunch of her friends. I'll ghost someone without a second thought but when it happens to me I'm the first to run to my girlfriends in disbelief saying, 'The least he could do is let me down easy,'" she said, adding, "It's probably karma." So, Is Ghosting Morally Wrong?
New York-based location scout Victoria Carter protested the slow-fade in a 2013 blog post on XOJane.
' Well haven’t you just walked away from a million different things in your life because you weren’t into it? On the flip side, Levkoff feels offering an explanation -- even if it's a short one -- is just part of being a standup woman or man.
It's the universe taking care of you saying, '"I'm sorry but that particular thing is over, go this way,'" he said. "It's nice to be able to say to someone, 'Listen I've enjoyed getting to know you, but I don't think this is going to move forward in a romantic way,'" she said.
Yes, lack of response from someone you're digging feels crappy. Behrendt doesn't think so -- and he can't understand why humans can't apply the same understanding about changed feelings to relationship as they do to virtually everything else. about a band, about a food, about certain things you thought were fun that you don’t think are fun anymore.