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You're not attracted to younger women, you're attracted to older women; instead of accepting that, you feel compelled to justify it by comparing younger women to older women and declaring—again, by implication—that there's something wrong with younger women.
You sound like one of those gay men who can't tell you why he's attracted to dudes without also (or only) telling you what he dislikes about women.
I would love nothing more than to watch this kind of porn with my boyfriend, so we can add it the bedroom excitement, but I'm embarrassed to share this as a straight female. Over a candlelit dinner, pop in some porn, send him a singing telegram—however you decide to tell him, DQ, the odds that he'll react negatively are pretty low.
Of course, watching someone deep throat and doing it yourself are two different things, DQ.
As for objectification, MILF, the problem with objectification is when the person doing the objectifying isn't capable of simultaneously seeing the object of their affections as a three-dimensional human being with desires, fears, and agency of their own.
Technically, MILF, we are all objects—"a material thing that can be seen and touched"—but unlike, say, Fleshlights or vibrators, we feel joy and pain and have wants and needs.
So long as you're can objectify someone while at the same time appreciating their full humanity—so long as you can walk that walk and chew that gum—you don't have to feel like a bad feminist for objectifying someone.
It can be freeing to regard a kink like SPH or your thing for tit slapping as a reward—as the only good thing to come out of the shitty zap the culture put on the head of a guy with a small cock or, in your case, a young woman with large breasts.
So long as we seek out other consenting adults who respect us and our bodies, we can have our kinks—even those that took root in the manure of negative cultural messaging—and our self-acceptance and self-esteem, too. All the porn I watch is nothing but rough, sloppy blowjobs. Do I just turn some deepthroating porn on and see what happens? Deepthroat Queen There's never really a bad time to tell someone they won the lottery, DQ.
I'm an 18-year-old cis hetero girl from Australia and I've been listening to your podcast and reading your column since I was 13.
Thanks to you I'm pretty open minded about my sexuality and body. I started watching porn from a youngish age with no real shame attached but I have some concerns. I get off really quickly to lesbian porn but it never feels like a "good" orgasm.
However, I worry that she's spent her whole life relying on her looks to gain validation from men, and that my brain-dead, loins-alive attraction is only perpetuating her objectification. There's nothing feminist about slagging off younger women to justify your attraction to older women.