Tips on dating a shy guy
Most shy guys have the first hurdle licked with a woman that they are interested in but fall flat on their face at this hurdle.Friendzones (I hate that word) are a thing because you guys don’t communicate your intentions clearly.Here’s the thing though, if you don’t learn to find time for yourself and be your own person then no-one is going to be very interested in you.Get yourself a hobby, find yourself an interest and go out there and be a bit too busy. Nothing says trip to snoozeville more than a guy that’s positively predictable and incredibly boring. Taking her somewhere she would love to go, and being different from the general populous could mean the difference between, “Oh just some guy that I went on a date with….” to “wow, the best date I ever had” Be respectful dude.Okay, so I don’t mean go all out and say, “I want to have sex with you” because it clearly doesn’t work like that, and you’ll be shoved on the backburner of people she tries not to talk to.Stating intention can be verbally, or non-verbally, or a mixture of both.Immerse yourself in life’s lovely qualities that can often have you letting your friends down on one or two ocassions because you’re too busy with your hobbies and interests. Don’t plan to take your date for a coffee or to a resturant, instead, take her horse riding, sky diving, mountain climbing — be vigilant, make sure it’s something that she would enjoy before springing it out on her. If you’re shy like I was then you probably didn’t have many offers growing up.It may be hard seperating your lust and pent up sexual tension from the date you’re on but you need to respect her always and know where you stand when it comes to consent. I’ve heard no amount of women tell me the really nice guy that she thought she was dating acted like a sexual predator on her first date with him. You’re getting to know each other a little bit better, and it’s definitely not an open invitation to her bedroom.
If you try and manipulate it then when you move from dating to being in a relationship with each other she’s going to eventually find out that you’re clingy AF. I had only wanted a woman to share my life with and that’s all I ever wanted, so finding time for myself was always put on the back burner.We were at a party once and she said to me, “Raymond, you need to get out there and get noticed.No-one is going to know who you are if you sit here, in the shadows” and she was right, and uncomfortably right at that.Please don't overthink till your neurons burst like firecrackers, just decide on a place and timing without humming and hawing over it.Your shy girl is like that turtle that won't come out of its shell until it is sure about its surroundings.
After knowing some people for ten minutes I generally have a good idea if I want to be in their presence or stay a million miles away. So, basically, make sure she’s aware that you exist.